Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Golden Rules for Children??? hmmm

Our household lives under its own Bill of Rights.  I began drafting them around eight years ago when my son was old enough crawl across the room and snatch a toy out of an innocent playmates chubby fists.  My son was a speed crawler, and a grabby SOB!

The first rule was :
Share our Toys

My guidelines are not elaborate.  I strive to keep them age appropriate.  The truth is that they probably protect "the others" more than my kids.  But they teach life lessons.  Concepts and ideas that take years to master, and do not come naturally.

Ward and June we're not.  But who wants their kids to be known as the "naughty boys"???

We've spend a lot of time discussing our "rules"- and yes, many of these discussions take place while my children are seated on the bottom step in a time out.  Well, not so much anymore.  I just wanted to raise nice human beings.

Here are some of our rules:

No hitting
No biting
No kicking
No pulling hair
No lying
Always say please and thank you
Say excuse me (after you burp, fart or when an adult is speaking and you interrupt them)
Always say "I'm sorry" and make eye contact

These are basic rules of etiquette.  Over the last few years I have been truly shocked by some of the behavior exhibited by other people's children in my home.  One seven year old boy told me to F-off when I said he couldn't have a soda with his snack (our kids don't get soda)!  I asked him if he's allowed to use that language in his house- he said..."F- yeah!"

I feel that my expectations are realistic.

I have to wonder, have we lowered our expectations?  Below are the "rules" that the Girl Scouts Bicentennial Historical Activity Book published.  How does your family compare?  My personal favorite is the last!!  lol


Twelve Golden Rules for Children
(from the 1880's)


1. Shut every door after you without slamming it.

2. Never shout in the house.

3. Never call to persons upstairs or in the next room; if you wish to speak to them, go to them.

4. Always be kind and polite to servants if you would have them the same to you.

5. When told to do or not to do a thing, by either parent, never object and obey cheerfully.

6. You may tell of your faults and misdoings, but not of those of your brothers and sisters.

7. Carefully clean your shoes before entering the house.

8. Be prompt at every meal hour, especially so in the morning, and thus cultivate the habit of rising early.

9. Never sit down at the table or in the parlor with soiled hands or disheveled hair

10. Never interrupt any conversation, but wait patiently your turn to speak.

11. Never reserve your good manner for company, but be equally polite at home and abroad.

12. Let your first, last and best friend be your mother.
Love to hear how it works in your house!

"Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one."  Bill Gates

36 comments:

Megan said...

I think your rules are great!! As are the scout's rules too :) I'm all for polite, well behaved kids!!

mochajava said...

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XLMIC said...

I am printing out this Boy Scouts list. Your rules are very similar to ours. It boils down to treating others and property with respect.

I, like you, am blown away by the bad manners of some kids.

MommyKuehner said...

These are great rules. REally like this post! Have to print it. Our kids are on the Autism Spectrum...so manners and good behaviors are hard to remember at times.

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Heather said...

Great post! Our rules are a lot like yours!

Kristin said...

Ha! I like the rule about how to treat servants. Wow. But, all in all, good rules to live by!

New follower from The Middle Matters hop!

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Jennilee said...

Hmmm, I don't have a list of rules for my kids... they are not naughty (often lol), but it wouldn't hurt to have something on paper that I can read off every night to them after prayer time as a reminder of what is expected!!

Thanks for posting this, I might use some of your ideas :-) Your newest follower from the Wednesday Blog Hop!!

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Lioness said...

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April Decheine said...

Already a follower! Just popping in on Hump Day From the Wired Blog Hop!
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Yup, when my kids were little there were some darn little frickin brats, excuse my... I still to this day when little kids are being brats at like the grocery store and I am not having to walk behind them I give them a stern look that their parents aren't doing then scoot away LOL! Mine are 25, 23 and 21. The friends they bring home now are so well behaved and polite!! I digress sorry! :-)

Mary said...

Great Great post, so do alot of them in my own home!! TFS

Clayton Thomas said...

Found you through the hop. Really liked the simplicity behind this post. For some though, these rules would be too complicated. An example would be the child's parents who used the profanity in your home. All my best!!!

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Kristi said...

What a great set of timeless rules. I had to smile at "don't shout to someone in another room...go to them". It seems as if we comply with half that rule. We don't shout to the person upstairs....we text them. LOL

productjunkiemama said...

These are the same rules I have in my house and I think kids like structure. It is very important I think. New follower from the blog hop! Your tag line made me laugh out loud!Come see me soon!
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CRichman said...

following you back, thanks for stopping by!

Jennifer said...

You have been Stumbled. Thank you for joining the hop.

Honey said...

Found you through the Nice to Tweet you hop. I have to say manners seem to be a thing of the past. We're CONSTANTLY complimented by strangers on our children's behaviour. We've had many meals paid for because some older couple have said how refreshing it was to enjoy a meal with out screaming, food throwing, and hearing thank yous, please and excuse me. We've even had a few older ladies track me down because my 12 year old helped them get something off a shelf and put it in their buggy...or hold a door for them. I answer with sir/ma'am even to my children. I think I should respect first so they know how to respect.

I'm proud my children have manners and I love your 'rules'. I'd only like to recommend that one should say excuse me when interupting no matter the age of the person being interupted.

Honey
www.mondorfment.blogspot.com

Elle said...

If your kids actually obey all those...they are really well behaved kids.

I stumbled this post.

Twingle Mommy said...

Well one and two are rules in our house. But as for the rest, ehhh not so much. Treat servents with respect, does that mean mommy?
Stumbled you, hope you'll stumble back!

Debbie said...

I like #3. My husband does that and drives me nuts. I think it is rude - if he needs something come to me not call me to him. lol
Very cool post.

Janelle said...

I am your newest follower from Thirsty Blog Hop!
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Crystal said...

Hahaha Thanks for joining the blog hop! I am so glad you did! Your blog is great!

Have a great day!
Crystal

Living, Loving, Learning And Blogging said...

great tips you've got here and thanks for sharing the girls scout rules, can't remember them anymore but my fave would be the last one, too, unfortunately, mom's already with her creator so it's now my hubby holding the bff throne:) visiting thru TBE and followed. pls follow me back at www.ilove-hues.com. thanks:)

dosweatthesmallstuff said...

Found you at the Thirsty Thursday Blog Hop, and boy am I glad! Am now your follower!

Your rules are great! I believe the same also. They're basic, but amazingly many people seemed so oblivious to them when it comes to teaching them to their kids these days! I think my eye would've popped out if I were you when I heard what that boy said! If my daughter ever say something like that I would seriously tell her to wash her mouth with soap!

And yes, agree! "Let your first, last and best friend be your mother" LOVE, LOVE that!!! :)

Kristin said...

Stopping by (again)...stumbled you!!

Would love if you could stumble me back:
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Thanks!
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Mama on a Green Mission said...

I'm a new follower! I'd love for you to stop by and follow back! I also wanted to invite you to our first Super Stalker Sunday blog hop! We have it up early to try and get the word out and we'd love for you to stop by and link up!

Happy Thursday!

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LisaWeidknecht said...

Hi! I'm here on the Cup of Joe Blog Hop. I'm following you and hope you will come follow me too!

Grace said...

I agree that set rules makes it better for the parent and for the children as they know what to expect. Cause and Effect if you will :)
I'm already a follower but wanted to say that I stopped her to visit from Thirsty Thursday.
Here is my blog:
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LifeBelowZero said...

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Sandy Elliott said...

You have been stumbled upon. Really great post.

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Mrs. E said...

Following back. Thank you for stopping by & participating in the twitter hop :)

Chauny said...

I love it, every household should have these golden rules, bring back the days of yea and nay! woohoo! I've just stumbled your post, plus am following you. Be blessed :)

Layne Stalvey said...

Our parents jerked a knot in us if we were sassy or impolite. We didn't leave the house if we didn't have a good attitude. I'm all about having rules. I love this, the old Golden Rules are great! Following from the Tuesday Tag Blog Hop! http://layneslovelylife.blogspot.com

Callista said...

Good post, we have similar rules here. However that list can't be Scout rules as they didn't exist in 1890. ??

Sherry (city chic on a farm) said...

LOL ~ Love it!! I have boys too and it seems like we grew up aorund the same time due to your posts. I was a 70s baby! You?

Patricia said...

Very good rules very cute post. Kids definitely need rules.
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